I thought i would respond to your message, "Are all men assholes?"
Yes, men do treat women badly, but the reason might be because men are playing roles they are not created to play. It is clear that men do a terrible job in ruling our world and perhaps the reason for this, is that men were not created to rule our world. This job should be done by Women.
Likewise in relationships I think we should ask ourselves whether marriage or pair-bonding is natural for human beings? After all, if religions have to enforce the state of marriage onto people through laws, punishments and social pressure, then it cannot be natural for humans to behave this way. Because if it was natural for humans to pair bond then no form or law or social custom would be necessary. People would pair-bond naturally.
I do know for a fact that men do fear being 'caught', that is to say, being forced to live with one women for the rest of their lives. And this is why many young men run away from women when the relationship gets too serious.
If it was accepted more, that couple do not have to live together for the rest of their lives, then perhaps men might be more relaxed about having relationships with women.
I know Women like marriage because if a relationship breaks up it is mostly the woman who are left, "holding the baby". But this is only the case in a patriarchal society. Mothers would off course get a lot more support in a Matriarchal society. If we did live in a matriarchal society then Women would make it the responsibility of the whole community to help look after children. They would certainly make it far more difficult for a father to run away from their children and give them no support.
Are all men assholes or just most of them? Rasa channels Mother God
Rasa: Mother God, I have been experiencing mostly bad treatment from men, and not being sure if it was personal, just me, I have interviewed many females, who are age 16 to 30, downtown, and the consensus from them, black and white, is that males are “assholes” and “pigs.” Those are the words most frequently used, there was not a dissent among them.
Now I know there is an argument to be made that women aren’t so hot, either, and males say women “play games.” And so, I ask for your take on this – what seems to be a universal agreement among women, and even many men, that men are pigs and assholes.
MOTHER GOD (MG): HAHAHA, MEN ARE ASSHOLES. WHAT YOU SAY IS TRUE, WHAT EVERYONE SAYS IS TRUE, THEY ARE ASSHOLES AND PIGS, FROM THE POINT OF VIEW YOU ARE COMING FROM – WHICH IS REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE, DAY TO DAY.
Rasa: OK. Now I know you are for real, if there was any doubt, Mother God, as you are not beating around the bush, just saying the truth, no quibbling. Here is what the college girls say, and here is what I say, of their behavior which makes them malicious:
· When they have sex with a woman, their “aftercare” is from Hell. I don’t mean the way most of them roll over and play dead after orgasm – that is bad enough, I mean the next day and week. They give you numbers that don’t work, or someone else’s number, or else, they hang up when you call or never call back, or else, when they see you on the street or at school, they act like they don’t know you.
It seems like always and forever, they want to “hit and run,” they want to do you, then pretend it never happened, so they can be footloose and fancy free for the next female, as they always think they can get someone new or better.
I have seen this at the clubs, and elsewhere. They are always searching, always prowling, you are never enough, they want to hit you one time, and it’s goodbye – I don’t know how any woman ever holds on to one of them. Why don’t they want relationships?
MG: THEY DO. BUT WHEN THEY INSTALL YOU INTO THE HOUSE OR MOVE IN WITH YOU, THEY, MOST OF THEM, WANT TO CONTINUE TO ROAM AROUND, FIND MORE WOMEN, YOU BEING THE MOTHER THERE WHILE THEY PLAY.
Rasa: Again, we think alike. But I am having the same objective, in that I want to gather a harem of hotties, spiritual husbands who I am in relationship with, and I don’t want monogamy, but variety. So will that make me a pig also?
MG: NO, THIS IS DIFFERENT. YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN RUDE OR CRUEL TO ANY MALE YOU HAD SEX WITH – THINK ABOUT IT. IT WAS YOU WHO REACHED OUT TO THEM, AGAIN AND AGAIN, IN PAIN AND HUMILIATION, CONTINUALLY PURSUED THE ONES WHO APPEALED TO YOU – (EXCEPT FOR THE BAD LOVERS OR LOSERS WHO YOU IGNORED) – YOU STRAINED YOURSELF TO CREATE RELATIONSHIPS, IT WAS THEY WHO REJECTED YOU.
Rasa: Yes, it’s true. Again, people will say it’s an individual thing, they do this to me because they don’t like me, but I specifically asked many dozens of females throughout the last year, specific questions, and the girls told me they give them fake numbers, hang up on them, or ignore them after sex, so it is universal.
The question then, is what do we do about it?
MG: UNLESS A MALE FALLS IN LOVE WITH YOU, AND EVEN THEN THERE IS NO GUARANTEE OF FAITHFULNESS, ALTHOUGH HE MIGHT BE FAITHFUL IN SOME CASES – YOU HAVE TO PLAY THEM THE WAY THEY PLAY YOU, WITH NO SHAME OR COMPUNCTION OR PAIN.
IT IS WHAT IT IS, THE CLICHE GOES, JUST KEEP IT MOVING, AND LOOK FOR NEW MEN, AS THEY ARE LOOKING FOR NEW WOMEN.
Rasa: Is that the best revenge or strategy, then, play them like they play us? Be like them?
MG: YOU HAVE NO CHOICE. WHAT IS THE ALTERNATIVE? IN THE PAST, THE PROBLEM WAS THE LABELING, THE SLUT OR WHORE WORDS. BUT NOW, THAT WILL CHANGE – IT HAS CHANGED SOMEWHAT – AND YOU WILL HELP IT ALONG, BY BEHAVING IN A WAY OF SEXUAL FREEDOM, BY ADVERTISING WHAT YOU’RE DOING. YOU’RE DOING THAT ON FACEBOOK NOW, AND IN YOUR SEX REPORTS, EVENTUALLY, IT WILL HAVE AN IMPACT.
Rasa: Yes, it has been daunting. It started with Carlos way at the beginning. I called him every day for a week on his cousin’s phone (he did not have one, said he was always with his cousin, they living together) and never got a call back.
What alternative is there except to keep having one night stands, when they don’t want relationships, or else, relationships go bad?
MG: EVEN WHEN YOU GET A STEADY RELATIONSHIP, NONE OF THESE BOYS WILL FILL YOU UP COMPLETELY EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY, BECAUSE THEY DON’T HAVE THE MOXIE OR STRENGTH TO DO SO, SO AFTER YOU SET ONE UP, AND CHAIN HIM DOWN TIGHT, YOU WILL HAVE TO EXPAND AND GET THE NEXT ONE.
Rasa: That seems tricky at this point, being that I don’t even have one – Marc has gone the way of the dinosaurs because of his greed, Kahmee was an addict and abuser, - do you have any suggestions how I can succeed?
MG: JUST KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING, WITH NO COMPUNCTION, LIKE I SAID. I AM INSIDE YOU, GUIDING YOU ALONG, TELLING YOU WHEN TO STAY IN ONE CLUB, WHEN TO GO TO THE OTHER, WHEN TO HIT THE STREET, WHERE TO GO FOR FOOD, ETC. I WILL GUIDE YOU TO THE RIGHT PLACE AT THE RIGHT TIME, TO GET WHAT YOU WANT, TO KEEP YOU OUT OF TROUBLE.
THE LAST FEW DAYS YOU SAW NO ONE YOU REALLY WANTED, SO IT WAS JUST SOCIALIZING. WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE REALLY HOT YOU PULL OUT ALL THE STOPS AND YOU DON’T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER, AND THAT IS THE WINNING TICKET. THE GUYS YOU MET IN THE LAST FEW DAYS, YOU GAVE THEM WAYS OUT, SO YOU DID NOT SNAG THEM, AS YOU DID NOT REALLY CARE, SO YOU HAD A SMALL DOOR OPENED FOR THEM, WHICH THEY USED TO GET OUT OF IT – NOT BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT HOT, BUT BECAUSE THEY ARE ETERNALLY STUPID, AND ALWAYS THINK IN THE NEXT FIVE MINUTES THEY WILL FIND A BETTER OR YOUNGER GIRL, AND IN THE END, EVERY GUY YOU HIT ON TENTATIVELY, WENT HOME ALONE.
Rasa: So you agree that not only are they assholes and pigs, but they are eternally stupid? Could you elaborate on that, on how they are stupid, when it comes to dating and relationships?
MG: THEY ARE FOREVER LIVING IN LA LA LAND, THAT THEY WILL SCORE WITH HOT, BEAUTIFUL WOMEN, WHEN THEY CAN’T EVEN GET THE AVERAGE ONE. THEY KEEP FANTASIZING AND PRETENDING THEY CAN GET THIS ONE OR THAT, IN THE WAY THAT SOME WOMEN PRETEND AND FANTASIZE THAT MEN LOVE THEM. YOU HAVE SEEN IT, HEARD IT, WHEN FEMALES DELUDE THEMSELVES, DELUSION IS A TYPE OF STUPIDITY.
IF YOU WANT TO GET ANYWHERE, YOU HAVE TO FACE FACTS. SEE IT JUST HOW IT IS, SEE THEM AS THEY ARE. MEN SAY WOMEN PLAY GAMES. WHAT THEY REFER TO IS THAT WOMEN ARE NICE, WOMEN PLAY THEM FOR DRINKS OR FAVORS, BUT DON’T GIVE THEM PUSSY. THIS IS TRUE IN MANY CASES, BUT TOO BAD. WHAT MEN DO IS FAR WORSE.
Rasa: It seems to me, Mother God, they are no different than us, and at base, they really want love more so than just sex, but to hear them talk, all males want or need is sex. What’s with that?
MG: THEY IMAGINE ALL THEY WANT OR NEED IS SEX, BUT IF THE LOVE WAS COMPLETELY MISSING, THEY WOULD BE VERY HURT. IF YOU, THE WOMAN, WOULD JUST USE THEIR BODY THE WAY THEY ATTEMPT TO JUST USE YOUR BODY, AND KEEP IT MOVING FOREVER, AND NEVER GIVE THEM ANY CARING, LOYALTY, FAVORS, AFTERCARE, OR ANY SORT OF RESPECT AND KINDNESS, THESE MEN WOULD BE ONE MISERABLE BUNCH – THEY WOULD BE BLOWING THEIR BRAINS OUT – WHICH IS WHAT MEN DO WITHOUT LOVE, IN THE END, THEY JUST KILL THEMSELVES ONE WAY OR ANOTHER.
Rasa: And also, when men don’t get love or sex, they become mentally ill, dangerous and violent. Most serial killers do so out of revenge for not having had love, and many loners, those who cannot maintain relationships, are the ones who end up killers. Without love, affection, relationships, they become dangerous.
MG: GOOD POINT. FOR ALL THEY SAY ABOUT NOT NEEDING RELATIONSHIPS, THEY NEED THEM MUCH MORE THAN DO WOMEN. End 9/5/09